#048 Letting Go and Walking Away

In our ongoing arc of shorter episodes processing necessary endings to make way for new beginnings, we look at the reality that some people are not open to growth or the level of self-honesty we need for connection and security. Sometimes reconciliation fails when the other person is not ready to have that level of conversation or that level of self-ownership.

There is still a way to process this with grace and compassion, as much for yourself as it is for them. We cannot please our way to happiness, and we cannot hold space for the weakness in others forever without incurring a cost to our own projects of growth.  Sometimes we have to choose ourselves.

This episode explores the way to find closure in that unfolding circumstance and how to Let Go and Walk Away.

Anything that does not bring us alive, is too small for us.

 

Goodbye, 

I cannot love you, 

because you never were a friend to me.

Goodbye, 

I cannot keep you, 

because you were unsafe to yourself.

Goodbye, 

I cannot care for you, 

because I cannot love you 

the way that you expect me to love. 

I can only love the way 

that is true in my heart, 

and for all the light 

I can wish into these eyes, 

I cannot see how you are true in yours.

Goodbye,

I cannot hold for you,

Because you are weak in the places

where I choose to be defenceless.

Goodbye,

I cannot trust you, 

because you are so reliable, 

to be the same as this, 

on any day,

when the wind stops blowing your way.

So reliable, to raise the flags of victimhood 

when we should be taking turns, 

adjusting the sails, 

adjusting our course,

and toiling at the oars.

Goodbye.

I cannot love you, because.

Because you don’t care for my ’because’, 

and yours has taken up all the room 

in our shared harbour.